Maybe…

Maybe we met briefly or became fast friends at school. Maybe you’re my family and put up with me as a teen and through the tumultuous years leading to recovery. Maybe I’ve wronged you by not tending to our friendship often enough. Maybe you were my husband who shared a good 17 years with our […]

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Where is my Valentine?

  I always disliked Valentine’s Day because it made me think about my relationship and the long lost love. Have you been in a relationship and felt unloved? I have, and it sucks. Valentine’s Day is commercial all right, but for those who have no one or are in a relationship that doesn’t quite fit […]

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What we all pursue

We believe that what we all pursue is happiness. But happiness is a modern invention someone thought up and made a business of it. There are thousands of books trying to sell us how to attain happiness but none deliver. They can’t. What we really pursue unknowingly is validation, but most importantly love. Unconditional love. […]

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Farewell my dear Drew

My bestie Drew passed away January 8th peacefully in her favorite spot, the living room. next to the curtains where she would watch and make sure no intruder trespassed without her permission. Even at 14 years old she was there looking out for us. When I was deprived of Sparky, after my separation, I found […]

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Three friends, three divorces

Was it chance? Was it catching? I don’t know but two friends and I got divorced the same year! There is a good thing about it; that we were able to help each other along as we each experienced and made our way out of the mess it entailed. The particulars of each don’t really […]

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Sleeping around

For the last 16 months, I have been sleeping around. And by this, I don’t mean to say I have slept with anybody! I have been staying at different friends’ homes. It has been a ride, to say the least, and I have learned a lot about love, humility, friendship and adapting to circumstances beyond […]

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The unexpected circle of life

Here I am 21 years later living in the same apartment I landed in when I came to the city of San Francisco. Life is full of surprises and as I walked through the park on my way here this evening, I was smiling at the irony of it all. I’ve come full circle to […]

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When good people happen to us

I’d like to say that my life started to crumble a year and a half ago, but although it might seem that way, it was crumbling way before that. I was already crumbling inside, the outside had then to crumble for me to rebuild. And while all the chaos and destruction was happening, good people happened […]

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The end of hosting Thanksgiving dinner

  For the fifteen years that I was married I prepared Thanksgiving dinner for my friends who like us were displaced and didn’t have a family to celebrate it with. My friends were the only reason I actually celebrated Thanksgiving. I had my Peruvian, Irish, German, Thai, Spanish, Polish, friends come over and we had […]

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The fight to be right is wrong

We all think we are right when we have a conversation and happen to disagree, which often leads to anger and hurt feelings. And that’s the key: feelings are not expressed and neither the reasons why we feel hurt. That’s where we make the mistake, we don’t question what’s behind this person’s stance on a […]

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