My sister lost her best friend today

My sister has many friends, but this special friend came with no drama, was genuine, loving, caring, selfless and most importantly they had a long history of memories together. I believe this was my sister’s longest friendship that never ceased even when they were oceans apart. They kept in touch and shared their storms. Losing […]

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Mindfulness through pampering yourself

I’m still recovering from loss, and as I write this I’m fully aware that this act of pampering myself may come off as way too frivolous, but it actually helps me to be mindful. To ruminate less, and do something that makes me feel good. At least for a while before retiring for the day. […]

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The emotional toll of online dating

Every relationship takes emotional energy but also has its rewards. With family and friend relationships it’s usually an easy sail. You know what to expect and you rarely have to part ways, until one of you dies. Online dating, however, is the most energy and time-sucking experience I have ever had. One gets to experience […]

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It will never be the same

I don’t think we ever truly recover from a loss. There is, however, a road to slow recovery from the acute pain that follows it. We go through stages, skip some and probably go back to square one, just like a dance. I’m coping with mine, my own way, because there isn’t one right perfect […]

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Losing my grandmother

My dad and I made sure we went into the hospital room together. My family had decided we should go in pairs all the time, where we spent most of the day holding onto my abuelita who raised me and my other three siblings, myself since the age of two. My grandmother had been in […]

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We are both stuck

My niece has a beautiful Instagram feed called @alexia_is_stuck where she at 14, shares her thoughts and inspiration as an introvert. I really get her name, especially now. She is young and feels stuck. I’m 52 and feel kind of the same way. Stuck in a world where empaths and introverts suffer most. Today, I too […]

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Was I ever really married?

After an evening out with friends sharing laughs, inner demons, and philosophical chat I  came back home to find a letter from some Diocese letting me know that my ex-husband is getting married in the Catholic Church. It was no surprise, he had already told me, – thank God for text- yet, this letter made […]

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Who am I?

As one of Murakami’s characters in Men without Women says after pondering about his successful career and his love affairs with women, if all that is taken away from him, he asks himself, “Who am I?” And this, as the school year comes to an end today with a mixture of both happiness and sadness, […]

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When there’s no escape

Struggle keeps us alert and on our toes, but when life becomes too unbearable and we find there’s no escape because the trauma it will cause will break too many people’s hearts, you have to find meaning even when you feel there’s isn’t any left. Sometimes the feeling comes in waves, some small, undetectable, and […]

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