Celebrating being #QueenOf my life

Who said life would be easy? Mine certainly wasn’t, and still isn’t. Perhaps it will never be. And yet, like Teresa Mendoza, of Queen of the South, I feel I slay every day. And I like to celebrate it by watching the show on USA Network, Thursday 10pm/9PMc. Best part of it is, that wonderful […]

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The will to live

There is a little book I treasure by Victor Frankl entitled Man’s Search for Meaning which boils down to people’s will to live while in a concentration camp, as he, Frankl did in Auschwitz. I must have read this book over 10 times since my dad gave it to me when I quit drinking, which was […]

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Don’t do what first enters your mind!

Dale Carnegie said to never make a decision based on your first thought or impulse, those rarely bring positive outcomes. I agree because, often, the worst decisions are those that are not well thought out. It’s best to let things simmer and then proceed with caution but beware, don’t move to the other extreme; inaction. Quoting Dale […]

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The end of hosting Thanksgiving dinner

  For the fifteen years that I was married I prepared Thanksgiving dinner for my friends who like us were displaced and didn’t have a family to celebrate it with. My friends were the only reason I actually celebrated Thanksgiving. I had my Peruvian, Irish, German, Thai, Spanish, Polish, friends come over and we had […]

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Floating between lives

Sometimes we float between lives. The one we had and the one that is to come. And while we try to figure out the future we miss the moment and know that we’ll look back and regret not having enjoyed this floating time. I’m floating, unattached to anything, which should be a pleasurable experience but […]

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Endings are important

He is a good man. Honest, charming, highly intelligent and gifted. I’m happy to have shared a life with him. As we let go now, I only wish him well because I do love him. He was an important part of my life, which I don’t wish to tarnish. Endings are important and ours is […]

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You can’t prepare for the future.

When I was a little girl, yes I once was, I had this habit of trying to foresee and get ready for future disasters. I thought that I could prepare myself for the worst by thinking ahead. This became a habit well into adulthood. And as I’ve found out, this is not a way to […]

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Learning from our mistakes and accepting what is

Mistakes are things like setting your alarm to 6 p.m. when you really meant to set it to 6 a.m. or using salt instead of sugar in your coffee. These would be thoughtless errors that we all make from time to time. Other types of mistakes are the ones like General David Petraeus’ public humiliation. […]

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