Benchmarks: Our measure of change.

We all have ways to measure time and change. We do so by reflecting upon those events, benchmarks, that changed our lives. “The before and after.” We need those to see how we’ve progressed, changed, to get a sense of where we’ve been and where we are at present, what we have achieved and sometimes lost. […]

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What money can’t buy…

  I’ve spent over two decades in search of that perfect pair of shoes, those jeans that fit perfectly, that something that I could buy that would make me forever happy. At long last, I’ve realized those are not the things that will ever fulfill me. Not even that trip to the Bahamas, unless the […]

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Time to say goodbye…

Leaving behind those we love and care for or no easy feat. We leave a part of us with them, especially when we have a long history together. So it’s been on my last trip to my beloved Spain. I spent days catching up with family, old friends and made a few amazing good friends. […]

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The bottomless pit

Some of us are cursed to live with this bottomless empty pit that we can never fill, no matter how much good comes our way. Nothing is ever enough. We go through life feeling starved, eager to find that something or someone who will complete us, that will fill that empty space. It’s like chasing wind, […]

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The Stepping-stones that keep us going

As kids we move from one stage of life to another quite effortlessly. Full of enthusiasm and expectations for the next great thing to come. We watch in awe as life unfolds. Unfortunately, we gradually outgrow our innocence with every fall and loss we experience. Yet, we trudge on. Some of us are more resilient […]

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Because you were there…

I have this very good friend with whom I’ve experienced unconditional acceptance and love, as well as a very painful fallout. We’ve been friends now for 17 years. Throughout all those years we have managed to share our best and worst. Nothing new in tight relationships. We also share that we are both a bit […]

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Because I can’t help but smile…

On Thursday, having ten minutes to spare between classes, I ran off to get my poison, soda, to a nearby funky corner store in San Francisco. It’s one of those corner stores right in the heart of the homeless and drug dealing quarters. Few would go out of their way intently to shop there, but […]

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How to mend a broken heart.

Our hearts inevitably break as we go through life. Our jobs, friends, lovers, let us down. They leave us or disillusion us, probably from the high expectations we place on them in the first place. That’s far from being bad, though. That these things happened means that we had hopes and were positive and brave […]

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