Defining marital status

Marital statuses don’t define us​

We keep wanting to classify people as if this would in some way  give us a much better clue about a person’s identity and build a clearer picture of who they are. But, a marital status doesn’t define us and in some cases, it’s best not to disclose because of the negative implications. As is the “divorced” […]

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The importance of mourning loss

I thought that the best cure for pain was getting busy and trying to forget at any cost what had transpired. But it doesn’t work that way. Or at least it hasn’t worked for me. Those solutions are temporary. Getting over pain takes a period of mourning. Now, I’m at that point, and I’m not […]

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Rebooting and downloading a new life

For the first time in my life, I’m not in a relationship and I’m ecstatic. I am finally giving myself the time to figure out who I am alone, what I really like and need in order to be content and happy. I’m also realizing that I can make it on my own which is a […]

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Should you leave or stay in your relationship?

If you are asking yourself whether or not you should leave your relationship, that in itself should be a red flag. But breaking up isn’t so simple, especially if you have kids. Asking your friends for advice might leave you even more baffled. So, instead of bending your friends’ ears for advice you probably won’t […]

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We are breakable

Yesterday, I met a dear friend for breakfast. We hadn’t seen each other for a while, way too long, we agreed. Life is full of distractions and in our case, simply too much LIFE had gone on. We both felt as if we had each been caught in our own personal tornadoes, and now, finally getting some […]

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9 Months of love

In a week, I’ll be leaving for my beloved Spain but saying goodbye to my friends and housemate Drew. Today, as I walked in the door and she came wagging her tail to greet me, I realized how much I was going to miss her, my friends and the home that has hosted me for […]

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What really matters in life

It’s taken me till now to realize what really matters and what makes me happy. I can tell by how my heart seems to expand and how my loneliness has dissipated. What really matters to me might not be what matters to everyone, but taking a hard look at myself and my life after a […]

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Shall we dance?

Will I see you before you leave? It all depends. Do you really want to see me? Or like myself, is it about not knowing how to proceed? Relationships should run their natural course just as friendships. Nothing should be forced just like dance.

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Endings are important

He is a good man. Honest, charming, highly intelligent and gifted. I’m happy to have shared a life with him. As we let go now, I only wish him well because I do love him. He was an important part of my life, which I don’t wish to tarnish. Endings are important and ours is […]

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