The rainbow of pain.
Pain is like a rainbow, no feeling is the same because each painful moment has its different shade. You can’t compare pain either since it’s such a personal experience.
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When do we lose our innocence?
When is it that we lose our innocence? Is it when we experience our first rejection, our first heartbreak, or our first loss? Whenever it is, it hurts to realize that life is not an easy ride and not a happily ever after story. It is happy, but it also comes with more than a […]
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Why I would commit suicide but won’t.
Life is not easy, that is a fact. Some people are more resilient than others and can take life in stride, being more able to tolerate and overcome hardship. Some call it courage. If you lack that courage or that degree of resilience to face life, you might toy with the idea of suicide when […]
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“Everything happens for a reason” and other irritating platitudes.
There are things people tell us, platitudes, which may anger us when we are in dire straits, down in the dumps or dealing with loss. Well-meaning friends want to make us feel better. Perhaps they tell us from personal experience, but, unfortunately, we don’t learn from second-hand experience. Plus, we usually end up feeling frustrated […]
Read More…A year of darkness and shared pain.
This year has not been much of a good year for some of my beloved friends. Many have suffered impossible losses, heartbreaks and tragedies that at the time seemed unfair and senseless. These losses have had a profound impact on my friends and myself. We are part of those we care for and love. Therefore […]
Read More…On breaking bad news.
Being the bearer of bad news is something I’m not comfortable with, especially because I’m very protective of other people’s feelings and I try to avoid causing others pain. But life is full of bad news and out of respect; this news must be broken at some time.
Read More…When a part of ourselves leaves.
We are the sum total of those loved ones in our lives. Part of our identity is linked to them whether they are friends or family. Any loss of one or the other creates an empty vacuum impossible to fill.
Read More…Disassociation: escaping pain.
There is something called disassociation, when something is so painful you put it away in a drawer at the back of your mind and let it stay there, hidden. Sometimes it’s forgotten, but the day always comes when it returns and you need to tuck it back in with all its consequences, or deal with […]
Read More…In the darkest hours.
There is always something or someone who can light up even the darkest hours of our existence. If I’ve learnt something, it’s that you cannot compare grief or lessen its importance trying to get someone to see how other people have it worse.
Read More…Why not understanding how someone feels is OK.
Empathy is important to better understand people’s feelings and to be able to help another. To be empathetic, it helps to have gone through a similar experience, but sometimes if we haven’t, we can’t begin to imagine how someone feels, especially in the face of loss.
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