To my little ones

I have yet to tell you that I won’t be with you next year, and it’s hard to think about the right moment to break the news to you before the year is over. My heroes, my young champions, my funny guys, my morning glee, my troupers, my studious and wacky ones; you shall be […]

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Melancholy is healing

All my life I’ve been naturally driven to melancholy. There is a certain beauty to it.Unlike sadness, it’s not painful and it has helped me countless times to recover emotionally from small unforeseen losses, which we all experience as we live and move on. Melancholy may sit in the past, in the present, and in the “what could have been’s.”

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My ex-husband’s great qualities

Although love slipped away and dissolved, my ex-husband was and is admirable in many ways. He had and has great qualities I’m thankful he shared with me. Now, after a year and a half, I can see more clearly, on looking back at “us,” at “him,” and give him credit. Things fall apart, and as […]

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The unexpected circle of life

Here I am 21 years later living in the same apartment I landed in when I came to the city of San Francisco. Life is full of surprises and as I walked through the park on my way here this evening, I was smiling at the irony of it all. I’ve come full circle to […]

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We are breakable

Yesterday, I met a dear friend for breakfast. We hadn’t seen each other for a while, way too long, we agreed. Life is full of distractions and in our case, simply too much LIFE had gone on. We both felt as if we had each been caught in our own personal tornadoes, and now, finally getting some […]

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A note about and to my father

My father took full responsibility for my sister and myself when he could have given up and run for the hills. He didn’t, he took us with him, saving our lives and giving us two worlds and two languages, the very tools that have become our weapons to navigate life.

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Lessons we learn from regret.

Regret: feeling sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity). Oxford Dictionaries We cannot live looking back in constant regret, but we can learn the lessons regret teaches us. True that we cannot undo or change what’s been done, but regret does serve a purpose.

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Why I chose to spend Thanksgiving alone.

For the past 13 years, I hosted thanksgiving at my then home. It was a lot of fun; the cooking, prepping, anticipation and then my beloved friends. -a little stressful too-This year was different. As I started my journey as an unmarried person, I could no longer host. I had many awesome invitations and felt really […]

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