Defining marital status

Marital statuses don’t define us​

We keep wanting to classify people as if this would in some way  give us a much better clue about a person’s identity and build a clearer picture of who they are. But, a marital status doesn’t define us and in some cases, it’s best not to disclose because of the negative implications. As is the “divorced” […]

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Rebooting and downloading a new life

For the first time in my life, I’m not in a relationship and I’m ecstatic. I am finally giving myself the time to figure out who I am alone, what I really like and need in order to be content and happy. I’m also realizing that I can make it on my own which is a […]

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Endings are important

He is a good man. Honest, charming, highly intelligent and gifted. I’m happy to have shared a life with him. As we let go now, I only wish him well because I do love him. He was an important part of my life, which I don’t wish to tarnish. Endings are important and ours is […]

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Is divorce a malady now?

There seems to be an app for everything, and I just found out, there is an app for what they call the “malady of divorce.”Aren’t we growing too weak and too dependent on apps to help us cope with life, turning what is natural grief into a disease, or malady, as the app tells us? 

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Defeat and divorce

Today I sat beside a stranger as we signed our “release” papers. The stranger was no stranger really, but it felt like it. I’m glad he didn’t cry, I did, for both later. 17 years of a life done with and almost forgotten. 

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Learning to let go

I believe learning to let go is like bodybuilding. You just have to keep at it long enough to reap the results. And life does seem to be the one that sets the schedule and timing.

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24 things that make me happily single at fifty!

As much as I miss having a home to go back to -the perfect home I had finally found- my puppy, the “false” sense of security believing someone had my back and the companionship. After the abrupt separation, the months following made me realize the upside of being “single” again. It is different now at […]

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Taking life one step at a time.

I used to fret about tomorrow and worried about things that never materialized. I was trying to control the “what ifs” of life. Now that life has finally served me several very real foul-tasting dishes, I realize I can only tackle problems one step at a time.

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Why I walked away with nothing.

Now, as the year comes to an end, I reflect on what has transpired and I’m OK with most everything. When I was blindsided by my husband’s request for a divorce, I nodded, got my bags and walked away without a fight and with nothing.

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How we could never be friends.

We were like water and oil. I was the water, right at the bottom and he was the oil. We had little in common but the one thing that was not the best to have: Two addictive personalities trying to escape pain. Not the best ingredients for a marriage.

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