I always like to joke sarcastically about how great it would be to have a lobotomy, so as not to feel so much and so intensely as we women do. Another solution would be to be injected a high dose of male hormones to stabilize and freeze emotion. Of course, without the awful side effects of growing a beard and all those unpleasantries.
Jokes aside, women do suffer more than men emotionally. While we share the same mental illnesses as depression, anxiety, and insomnia, to name a few, women do so to a higher degree. As Time article “It’s Not Just Sexism, Women Do Suffer More From Mental Illness,” explains. According to the article, studies show that the yearly rate totals of psychological disorders are 20-40% higher in women than men. That’s a lot! That’s unfair! That’s sexist! But, it’s true.
Why are we so cursed by emotion and mental illness? In my humble opinion, women have more to tend to and more to prove. As caregivers, we stretch ourselves far and beyond. Placing friends, family, children and work before any of our personal needs. Besides the obvious: hormones wreak havoc in our lives and bodies. And those, we can’t control. We might be aware that the mood swings we experience are due to hormonal changes, yet we forget and snap inadvertently.
So then, what? Well, all we can do is be aware of our tendency to be more emotional, prone to mental illness and work from there. I have my own emotional shortcomings which I am very aware of. I’m learning to deal with them, which I know is a lifelong process. I can identify what is happening to me now, and try to change my behavior or find help. Talk therapy, even with a friend is great. Laughing at myself is a fantastic antidote too. Of course, I’m talking here of mild cases of emotional distress, for those more serious mental disorders, a therapist is due.
So, yes, there is hope for us cursed emotional women!