It will never be the same

I don’t think we ever truly recover from a loss. There is, however, a road to slow recovery from the acute pain that follows it. We go through stages, skip some and probably go back to square one, just like a dance. I’m coping with mine, my own way, because there isn’t one right perfect […]

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Losing my grandmother

My dad and I made sure we went into the hospital room together. My family had decided we should go in pairs all the time, where we spent most of the day holding onto my abuelita who raised me and my other three siblings, myself since the age of two. My grandmother had been in […]

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We are both stuck

My niece has a beautiful Instagram feed called @alexia_is_stuck where she at 14, shares her thoughts and inspiration as an introvert. I really get her name, especially now. She is young and feels stuck. I’m 52 and feel kind of the same way. Stuck in a world where empaths and introverts suffer most. Today, I too […]

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Reconciling ourselves with the truth of life

Whoever told us that life would someday be perfect and easy? That we would find happiness and stay there? That there is a special someone for every one of us? That we would reach that moment where we would be content? Nobody and everyone. Because happiness has become a business and an unachievable longlasting state. […]

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We are the connections we make

We may stop and wonder at certain instances throughout our lives who we are, especially in times of confusion, identity crisis, or change. I’ve come to realize we are defined by the connections we make along our journeys and are the sum total of those we love. This is why loss hurts so deeply because […]

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Heartbreak is part of life, just as is death is

Just as with death, we are never ready for heartbreak, yet it is a natural fact of life. If you love you will inevitably hurt and if you live you will inevitably die. The difference is that with heartbreak you can learn. It’s a starting point for something else, for someone else, or for nobody […]

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The joy of scattering ashes and love

Today we scattered Dearest Drew’s ashes by the sea and the trails she so much loved to run, where all San Franciscan dogs come to play and roam free. It felt like closure. I was able to say goodbye to my dear companion and friend. Those who don’t have dogs can’t really understand how much […]

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I’ll love you no matter what

I have 5 children. They are not really mine, I’m just their aunt, but they feel like my own children ever since they were born. I’ve already suffered their growing pains since they were little and now that they are in their teens I feel a sort of loss, every real parent must feel. But no matter […]

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The story every teacher should read

The following story was told by Wayne Dyer. I had heard it before, but now it feels so much more powerful. Maybe I was not ready at the time. Children also have a lot to cope with in their lives. because misery is not only reserved for adulthood, so being more open, curious and empathetic […]

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Farewell my dear Drew

My bestie Drew passed away January 8th peacefully in her favorite spot, the living room. next to the curtains where she would watch and make sure no intruder trespassed without her permission. Even at 14 years old she was there looking out for us. When I was deprived of Sparky, after my separation, I found […]

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