loneliness – On Life, Hope y todo lo demás…

Don’t settle even if loneliness is a bit painful

Don’t settle for half a life, when things don’t make you happy, move on. Life with someone you don’t get along with, or with whom you have minimal things in common, is not worth your time. We have a certain time allotted to each of us and wasting it being miserable is worse than short bouts […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

What we all pursue

We believe that what we all pursue is happiness. But happiness is a modern invention someone thought up and made a business of it. There are thousands of books trying to sell us how to attain happiness but none deliver. They can’t. What we really pursue unknowingly is validation, but most importantly love. Unconditional love. […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Undeniable loneliness

As a child, I would often run very high fevers, especially when we went to the movies. It was absolute coincidence, yet my Dad started to fear taking me to the theatre at all. I don’t remember the pain I was in, but I do remember how my Dad and grandmother cared for me. The […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

How the Internet makes being alone much easier.

As I entered my 50th birthday with a big bang on many levels: new job, a divorce which has led me to temporarily, I hope, become somewhat of a nomad, beating loneliness has all been easier thanks to the internet.

by Laura Basset Carbonell

When seeking solitude is not such a great idea.

I like my space, my solitude, often crave it, but I have realized that there are times when this solitude, can turn on me, becoming loneliness, which then steers my thoughts towards dark places, creating a downward spiral, which is hard to stop and get out of.

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Shedding fears one at a time.

Only time, self-awareness and introspection make it possible to overcome our fears. One at a time, like shedding skin, do they part and leave us. However, only when the time is right and we are ready.

by Laura Basset Carbonell

I always felt lonely.

As I start a new life I find myself evaluating what has led to this. It is important to look back and think about what’s happened as a form of cleansing and acceptance. What arises is in my case is sadness and anger, all at the same time.

by Laura Basset Carbonell

How to fill the existential void.

At some point in our lives, we all experience a sense of emptiness inside, an awareness that we are, in fact, alone and separate beings. We often feel this at times when we feel we are running on empty, lost, clueless, unfulfilled, lonely, sad or downright depressed. To avoid actually feeling these feelings, we try […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

The need to seek solitude in the midst of the noise.

I know I’m often not in good company when, instead of solitude I experience loneliness. But both come and go and perhaps the latter is more deeply felt in the company of people. The former: solitude, is a place I need to go to, to gather my bearings, and as Henry Miller wrote in The […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

The positive effects of reading.

I love reading and especially browsing through books in a good old independent bookstore. True that the latter are few and far between nowadays, but the magic is still there if you are lucky enough to find these now hidden gems. When I’m walking around and my eye catches one, I’m suddenly transfixed and […]