Don’t settle for half a life, when things don’t make you happy, move on. Life with someone you don’t get along with, or with whom you have minimal things in common, is not worth your time. We have a certain time allotted to each of us and wasting it being miserable is worse than short bouts of loneliness, as painful as these may be.
It’s scary to take the leap, to change your neat life, but in the end, you’ll look back and feel relieved you tried a different life, even one alone. Who says we’ve got to be with someone to be whole anyway? Society dictates this mostly, and yes, it’s true that company is soothing and better for one’s heart, but it must be good company or else it can also be detrimental to your health. The anxiety and guilt you feel being with someone you no longer love or are a good match with, also eats at your soul.
I don’t believe in soul mates, I believe in friendships and the love that can grow within that friendship that then, may turn into a partnership. Slowly. There’s no haste, and even if there may be no one that fits the bill, don’t settle just because you don’t want to be alone.
For once I’m content. I’m slowly building a life alone and I’m the master of my own boat. It’s taken over 2 years to feel human again, but here I am fully independent and if my path crosses someone else’s I hope they simply add to my already content life. Not subtract, make impositions or tries to change me, as neither will I.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. – Steve Jobs