Laura Basset Carbonell

Life goes on

Sometimes our worst enemy is seeing life through the lens of the past trying to foresee the future, and on a bad day when our guard is down we gather all our problems at once, making us mistakingly foresee our future through a dark and cloudy lens. But life goes on and we cannot predict what […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

What we all pursue

We believe that what we all pursue is happiness. But happiness is a modern invention someone thought up and made a business of it. There are thousands of books trying to sell us how to attain happiness but none deliver. They can’t. What we really pursue unknowingly is validation, but most importantly love. Unconditional love. […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

What to get him for Valentine’s Day

I believe experiences are probably the best gifts, but a well thought out one that lasts and nails it says a lot about how much you care. It can be a small token of appreciation and you need not break the bank. It may be a commercial day, but at this point, everyone hopes to […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Break up with a narcissist for Valentine’s Day! Do yourself a favor!

According to Minds Journal “Casinos know it. Animal trainers count on it. Narcissists have perfected it.” Diana Jeffrey couldn’t have explained it better when she says how the powerful emotional tool of intermittent reinforcement can keep you hooked forever. This is what Narcissists are experts at. It does take a special type of person who […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Women of a certain age have few if no opportunities in the workforce in Spain

People ask me why I don’t move back to Spain if I have no family in San Francisco. This question was immediately asked when I got separated. Nothing was then holding me back in the US. Although I truly love Spain, unfortunately, there are no opportunities for women my age. Spain is a wonderful, friendly […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

I know I cannot change the world but I do this

I cannot change the crazy world we live in but I can focus all my attention on those I love and try to make a little difference. Little acts of love, kindness, and compassion are the only ways I know to improve the world, my world, the world of those around me. The way I see […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Becoming soft hearted

My dear friend Tom told me once that I was as tough-hearted as a dude, whatever he meant by that. This was about 24 years ago and somewhere along the line, I became very soft-hearted. Looking back, I do understand where he came from. We used to date before we became best friends and that […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

I never had any “ambition” and that’s ok

Now, I’m at a time when I can sit and reflect. The last year and a half have been whirlwind; moving repeatedly, changing jobs and living in absolute uncertainty every single day. Yes, life is uncertain, but we all need a log to hold onto to feel safe and have some sense of normalcy. I […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

50 things every woman should have by age 50

Shared by Two Southern Sweeties a blog to follow! 1. An old boyfriend who makes you smile with melancholy when you remember him and an old boyfriend who makes you proud of how far you’ve come. 2. A piece of furniture that has never been previously owned by anyone in your family that you bought with […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Farewell my dear Drew

My bestie Drew passed away January 8th peacefully in her favorite spot, the living room. next to the curtains where she would watch and make sure no intruder trespassed without her permission. Even at 14 years old she was there looking out for us. When I was deprived of Sparky, after my separation, I found […]