Maybe…

Maybe we met briefly or became fast friends at school. Maybe you’re my family and put up with me as a teen and through the tumultuous years leading to recovery. Maybe I’ve wronged you by not tending to our friendship often enough. Maybe you were my husband who shared a good 17 years with our […]

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He’ll never say he loves me and that’s ok

I have a little brother, a younger brother, and although we’ve been through tough times, my love for him has only increased over the years. We even went through a period of four years without talking to each other and that was very painful. I have often looked back at those days and thought it was […]

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What we all pursue

We believe that what we all pursue is happiness. But happiness is a modern invention someone thought up and made a business of it. There are thousands of books trying to sell us how to attain happiness but none deliver. They can’t. What we really pursue unknowingly is validation, but most importantly love. Unconditional love. […]

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When you lack a sense of belonging

I’ve become somewhat of a nomad, a modern day nomad and a grateful one at that, for all those who have allowed me to camp out at their homes for a while. It’s as much a blessing as a curse. Now, more than ever, my sense of belonging is shattered. Finding a place to settle […]

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Taking life one step at a time.

I used to fret about tomorrow and worried about things that never materialized. I was trying to control the “what ifs” of life. Now that life has finally served me several very real foul-tasting dishes, I realize I can only tackle problems one step at a time.

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Why I walked away with nothing.

Now, as the year comes to an end, I reflect on what has transpired and I’m OK with most everything. When I was blindsided by my husband’s request for a divorce, I nodded, got my bags and walked away without a fight and with nothing.

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Friendships, our lifeboats.

It wasn’t planned. I always enjoyed genuine friendships and I have been blessed to attract the best crop. In love, I have failed miserably, but in friendships I’ve gotten straight A’s and they have become my lifeboats.

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Thanksgiving: The year of loss, love and hope.

I don’t think being grateful is something we are wired to feel now. There is this ingrained sense of entitlement and the belief that somehow life owes us. We seem to acquire, somewhere along the way, the same tunnel vision and selfishness as when we are infatuated and only see what we want to see, […]

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