When a part of ourselves leaves.
We are the sum total of those loved ones in our lives. Part of our identity is linked to them whether they are friends or family. Any loss of one or the other creates an empty vacuum impossible to fill.
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For better and for worse.
Some friendships grow through the years like a sort of “good” marriage where the ties are so strong that you feel what the other is feeling whether it’s happiness or pain, and the conviction that no matter what happens you are in it for the long run.
Read More…Disassociation: escaping pain.
There is something called disassociation, when something is so painful you put it away in a drawer at the back of your mind and let it stay there, hidden. Sometimes it’s forgotten, but the day always comes when it returns and you need to tuck it back in with all its consequences, or deal with […]
Read More…When I thought I was too old…
Feeling old is a question of attitude. You’re only old when you give up enthusiasm and set limits for yourself based on a number. That could happen at any age.
Read More…It is what it is.
A commonplace expression, which brings me a sort of relief: “It is what it is,” and all I can do is accept things the way they are.
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Dawn; the best time to wake up.
My dad used to wake me up early, cheerfully pulling up the blinds and saying; “Come on! Wake up and seize the day!” Since then, I am an early riser. I wake up instinctively and with a heart full of expectation and hope. The quiet and peace dawn brings with it is enchanting and emotionally […]
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The promise I didn’t keep.
Promises are sometimes made liberally, at a time when we’re caught in the web of emotion and make them out of either love or pressure. I’m guilty of a few broken promises, but especially one I made to my deceased grandmother Catherine. This weighs on me like a tombstone and the guilt still haunts me, […]
Read More…There are no endings.
There are no real endings, just continuity. Yet we keep wanting to turn pages hoping that the last ones won’t count or will be erased by time. We can’t will an ending. Things end by themselves when time decides to blur and hide away places, things or people we find hard to let go of.
Read More…When people we know become strangers.
Give some people distance and they may become strangers. This is not always the case, however. With some, we may be far removed by distance and time but when we get in touch again we pick up where we left off. Not so with others. The two parties may change, and have nothing left but a […]
Read More…Life’s wake up calls.
A jolt, a jumpstart, a sharp turn, an awakening, a strike of lightning, a slap in the face… Life’s wake up calls are numerous. You can choose to ignore them and keep doing what is not working, or take the chance, wake up and get on a new life-track.
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