taking responsibility – On Life, Hope y todo lo demás…

There’s no clear-cut break when it comes to exes

There is no clear-cut break when it comes to feelings. You often cannot control your emotions because when you are faced with a new situation, nothing you experienced before helps you handle the new one. This is especially true with relationships and breakups. When I told my friend that I had stayed friends with all […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Choosing sadness over anger

We often rebel against sadness by becoming angry. Being angry entitles us to blame someone else for our misfortunes, while sadness allows us to accept and take responsibility for our feelings and ourselves. Acknowledging that we are sad about something helps us understand ourselves and our situation better and the tendency to blame is lessened. Anger […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Don’t feel sorry for yourself. It’s a road to nowhere.

Rarely will you find me feeling sorry for myself. I used to, and that only made me hurt myself in some stupid way. Either by turning to alcohol or finding a million other ways to punish me. “That will show them!” I must have thought. Yep… That did show someone, it showed “me” how screwed […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

You are not a victim: Take responsibility for your life and move on.

We seem to feel we are victims of our circumstances, as Ortega y Gasset said, and that we can’t do anything about it. We feel helpless, and find a million excuses to stay stuck in the same place.

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Life owes us nothing.

We often feel entitled to certain things, making it difficult for us to live and accept our fates. Life is a gamble where we are given our own chips to play. We win and lose, but we really shouldn’t complain if the outcome is not of our liking. If we do, well, we will suffer […]