self-awareness – On Life, Hope y todo lo demás…

Where is my Valentine?

I always disliked Valentine’s Day because it made me think about my relationship and the long lost love. Have you been in a relationship and felt unloved? I have, and it sucks. Valentine’s Day is commercial all right, but for those who have no one or are in a relationship that doesn’t quite fit […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

The ifs that have become my blessings

I’m not afraid for once of what is to come. I’ve learned a lot in the past couple of years, especially about survival and friendship. I’m not alone in this boat, although I may be alone battling my own fight. I’m in a good place now, and grateful for every single obstacle that got me here. […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Cancer, death and the aftermath of pain and financial debt.

In my little world, cancer was something that happened to other people. Not until I had my personal encounter with melanoma, did I really know what it meant to suffer from skin cancer. The same went for breast cancer – it seemed foreign – until a friend, the mother of two young children was hit […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

The need to seek solitude in the midst of the noise.

I know I’m often not in good company when, instead of solitude I experience loneliness. But both come and go and perhaps the latter is more deeply felt in the company of people. The former: solitude, is a place I need to go to, to gather my bearings, and as Henry Miller wrote in The […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Change sometimes just means accepting who you are.

I’ve spent a great deal of my life trying to change. Feeling like I was medium rare and not well done. Now, after five decades I’m finally the person I want to be.

by Laura Basset Carbonell

How to ruin your life: reverse psychology.

When a friend is in some kind of trouble, it’s always easy for us to see the mistakes she’s making—dating the wrong guy, drinking too much, spending compulsively, you name it. Yet, when it comes to ourselves we are so blinded by emotion and clouded by fear that we can’t think ourselves out of the […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Thank God I didn’t get what I wanted!

We want what we want when we want it and if we don’t get it we grieve, hurt, feel deep disappointment and in extreme cases, we may even fall pray to deep sadness or depression.

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Fine-tuning yourself.

Growing, becoming the person you want to be or finding out who you are is much like fine-tuning a piano. It takes time and learning but you eventually get there.