The importance of mourning loss

I thought that the best cure for pain was getting busy and trying to forget at any cost what had transpired. But it doesn’t work that way. Or at least it hasn’t worked for me. Those solutions are temporary. Getting over pain takes a period of mourning. Now, I’m at that point, and I’m not […]

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How to overcome the waves of sorrow.

  When I was a little girl used to be suddenly overcome by waves of sorrow. Although they have become more infrequent as I’ve grown older, nevertheless, they still come and I’ve learnt to let them go by facing them. Now, as I sense the waves approaching I can be prepared to welcome the sorrow, feel […]

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Change your body language and change your life!

We laugh, chat, sit, walk, and cross our legs, without realizing the information  we are giving away about ourselves through these small gestures to our observers. People watching is fascinating and even more instructive than watching TV. There is so much to learn about people if you pay close attention. You can tell by the way a […]

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Changing self-defeating habits.

Our lives are ruled by habit, and deeply ingrained beliefs. We are hardwired to resist change, holding on to what is comfortable and familiar, even if we are not happy with the lives we lead, or the way we are. Breaking free from traits that do us harm is hard work. It takes more than […]

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Our scars: badges of honor

We all have visible and invisible scars. Those that are visible might be the ones that come with age, accidents, self-inflicted, or those surgeries that saved our lives. Our emotional scars are too, part of who we are. We should embrace them all.

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What love is not.

I’m in no way an expert in love, but I do know what hasn’t worked for me, or what I’ve seen in other relationships that hasn’t worked either. In this light, I am well aware that certain things don’t fall into the category of love.

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The stranger.

I’m sitting on the bus trying to hold my tears back. My eyes are still swollen from the early morning cry. I’m feeling lost and deeply sad. I then notice there is a handsome man next to me. He looks my way and I, in turn, look away searching clumsily for my earphones and start listening […]

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Rising from the ashes.

It’s been five years and a half since the hurricane of change hit my life. Some things went down hard and ugly, but it also brought many blessings. As I write this, Florida weather has turned cold, just a day before I head back to San Francisco where I made my home 21 years ago.

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Poise® provides discreet help for #LBL

I like the word “Poise,” which means embodying grace, elegance, balance, control, equilibrium. This describes how we should feel and carry ourselves at all times because if we feel and act this way, we are at peace with ourselves and unafraid of accepting life as it comes. This includes the intimate and very personal challenges […]

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