The positive side of an addictive nature

I know a lot about addiction and of various kinds. I quit drinking 24 years ago and I’ve had my share of other addictions too. Some still linger, but while I can overcome them, I have to deal with my addictive personality and this, I cannot shake off as much as I try. It’s who […]

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We all need those hugs

We all need companionship of some sort. Someone to hug, the warmth and knowledge that someone has our back keeps us relatively stable as well as knowing that someone cares deeply about us. It’s said that people who hug or have a significant another live longer, and I can understand very well why. We are not […]

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Always waiting for the next thing

We spend our lives waiting ever since childhood for the next thing; growing up, going to college, getting a good job, getting a car, a home, a relationship that works, marriage etc… The weekend! Wasting the present moment. Plan we must, but there’s so much more to life than simply planning and waiting. While we […]

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Online dating: too fast, too soon

I was very scared, yet as I embarked on my travels this year, I decided to try out, for real, a dating site. It felt safe because I was actually going to be away for most of the time, so how nasty could it get? At first, I met some men who seemed nice, but […]

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13 reasons why not…

There are many reasons to go THERE at some point in our lives. Some have never experienced them, but others, as I, have. Now, many years later, and having had to start from ground zero the past two years, leaving me a bit weary and broken, I have found my 13 reasons why not: Because I […]

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Embrace who you are

Nothing kills one’s self-esteem as rejection does. It grabs our ego and tears it to pieces, leaving us naked and vulnerable to even further pain. We start to doubt our worth, and the ability to be worthy of love, any love whatsoever. We feel fake, and somehow impostors. It takes time to stand up again and […]

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As best we could

Soon the leaves will begin their descent, leaving trees bare. It’s life; it brings us a beautiful spring and then tears us down slowly. The winds and the rain batter us until we become like broken children, however older and more tired. Every fall breaks us a little until winter sets in and we have […]

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Reinventing yourself after every fall

We are given many chances throughout our lives to reinvent ourselves, especially after every fall. It is in these moments that we find out which of our personality traits are worth working on to overcome them and grow, especially in the relationship department. While it might be painful to face our truths, this is the […]

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To first times at 52!

We all have first times, but with age, there are far fewer ones we can celebrate. I have plenty now to celebrate myself, a bit late but still excited! Granted they came at a price but I am grateful I got to experience them. For the first time: I owned my faults in relationships. I’m […]

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