The thrill of being alone

Ever since I was 16 I’ve been in a relationship. The fear of being alone was scary, so you can well imagine that some of my choices were not the best. Sometimes, I now feel, I didn’t even choose, they chose me, and out of fear of solitude, I went with it. Yes, very sad. […]

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I’m not giving up

My grandmother never  fell in love again after my grandfather decided to leave. He was to be her only love. I always wondered why she gave up  on love altogether. Now, I do know. She actually didn’t give up, she was a content single woman. I must admit that her hands were probably too full […]

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Defining marital status

Marital statuses don’t define us​

We keep wanting to classify people as if this would in some way  give us a much better clue about a person’s identity and build a clearer picture of who they are. But, a marital status doesn’t define us and in some cases, it’s best not to disclose because of the negative implications. As is the “divorced” […]

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How does it feel to be single again?

Someone asked me this recently and it took me a while to understand the question! Single? Oh! Yes, you must mean, how does it feel to be separated and leading a “single” life. Well, my answer was even more surprising to me since I hadn’t even given that a thought. “The same, I guess.” Meaning; […]

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