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Why we’re surprised when we reach a certain age

As we age, we often act surprised, as if no one warned us that we would eventually get old. When we are young, we tend to believe that old age happens to other people and that we will never experience it ourselves. This is because our brains are wired to resist the idea of our […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Stop searching, because this is it.

Stop searching for the meaning of life. This is it: there isn’t any. We come to the world alone, we leave alone, and in between, we live, laugh, dream, cry, suffer, enjoy some joyful moments and search for the answers to living a happy life. And that’s it. This is it—the raw truth. But, there’s […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Mujeres con canas; mujeres valientes y bellas.

Todo el mundo teme esas primeras canas. A algunas nos llegan antes que a otras. A veces nos salen a la temprana edad de los veinte; a otras no hasta bien entrados los 50. Pero llegar, llegan y eso es una suerte también. Las canas delatan la edad, pero, por suerte, una mujer puede cubrírselas […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

It’s youth’s time. Let’s lead by example.

It’s not our time anymore. It’s youth’s time. We have failed them miserably and even more when we don’t, as adults, send them a message of hope, letting them know that there may be a brighter future and that they are the change. We cannot cry, complain and only allow them to see the dark […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

The road to getting well is bumpy

Nothing could have prepared me for all this sudden change. As scary as change has always been for me, now I welcome it. I’m reaping the benefits of living in a constant state of uncertainty and have learned that the road to getting well emotionally and physically is always bumpy. All the bumps, potholes, turns, […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

I’ve finally arrived at my destination at 50

I never thought this would happen to me. That I would turn 50 and then 51. I actually thought older people belonged to a different species in my youth. As I got closer to 50 I felt anxious, but once I arrived and became part of that over 50 species I feel somewhat relieved. My […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Why I choose to wear “give-up” clothes

The other night, my friend and I watched a movie where this woman was chastising her recently divorced friend because she was wearing “give-up clothes.” While I found it hilarious it wasn’t so funny when my own friend looked at me and said, “Don’t laugh so hard because you are wearing give-up clothes around the […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

The importance of mourning loss

I thought that the best cure for pain was getting busy and trying to forget at any cost what had transpired. But it doesn’t work that way. Or at least it hasn’t worked for me. Those solutions are temporary. Getting over pain takes a period of mourning. Now, I’m at that point, and I’m not […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

The simple life

The simple life is one that is drama free. One in which you tune in with the world and accept it as it is, in the sense that you don’t spend your time complaining about things and not changing them, on the contrary, when something doesn’t work, try something new. Accepting that life it is […]

by Laura Basset Carbonell

Why do we become more solemn as we age?

When I was much younger I wondered why older people seemed grimmer, smiled less, and often were party poopers. You went to them with your youthful excitement to tell them your latest endeavor, yet you were not greeted in kind but were offered instead words of caution.