Changing self-defeating habits.

Our lives are ruled by habit, and deeply ingrained beliefs. We are hardwired to resist change, holding on to what is comfortable and familiar, even if we are not happy with the lives we lead, or the way we are. Breaking free from traits that do us harm is hard work. It takes more than […]

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Life: a constant series of “goodbyes.”

Probably the toughest lesson life teaches us is that of letting go of people and things. We don’t realize life is a series of constant “goodbyes,” until we experience the most painful one. The one that transforms you, that makes you realize how fragile life is and that nothing and nobody stays in our lives […]

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On not giving up

I recently watched Out of Africa again. It was first released in 1985 and back then, I saw it as a love story, now, all these years later as many other things, I saw it from a different place and perspective. It’s not about love anymore for me, it’s about courage and not giving up.

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The stranger.

I’m sitting on the bus trying to hold my tears back. My eyes are still swollen from the early morning cry. I’m feeling lost and deeply sad. I then notice there is a handsome man next to me. He looks my way and I, in turn, look away searching clumsily for my earphones and start listening […]

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How to survive the blues by not engaging.

We all have those days that are bleak and blue. They hit you inadvertently, for no reason or sometimes with reason, yet you can prepare for those days. Once you know yourself well, and what you tend to do that will only spiral you deeper down into the dark abyss, with practice you can make […]

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My epitaph…

What would you like your epitaph to be? Maybe, by thinking about it and putting it into as few characters as a tweet, it may help put your life into perspective. I know what mine would be and it goes back to when I was 27 years old. 

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The older, the more interesting people become.

The older we get, the more experiences we have to share. We are exciting books waiting to be read. Our chapters are longer, more intricate and interesting.  And as we share these stories with others, we are not only enriched by them but bond with others like never before because we may share similar experiences […]

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Rising from the ashes.

It’s been five years and a half since the hurricane of change hit my life. Some things went down hard and ugly, but it also brought many blessings. As I write this, Florida weather has turned cold, just a day before I head back to San Francisco where I made my home 21 years ago.

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Take me home

There was shattered glass everywhere. I got up from bed and made my way carefully to the window where a beautiful full moon greeted me. I had never seen such grandeur before. It seemed to beckon me.

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